Five years ago, I was in a very bad place. I had been worked over by a psychopath, and I had a lot of healing to do after having been unceremoniously dumped. So, I had started a blog to that effect. I was also furious because after the fact – I found out he’d been hunting for my replacement on a dating site Match.com, and he found her! In time, I did indeed heal. Today, I’m strong, healthy, and happy! Well, I could always a use a little more money, but who couldn’t? LOL.
I am grateful in that I had not been abused as badly as many of psychopathic victims out there. I’ve seen the growth on the Internet of many other blogs covering the subject. I had gotten in apparently on the ground floor, and I was able to share much of what I had experienced at the psychopath’s hands! But I’m no expert on the subject, and since then, many other bloggers more expert than myself have stepped forward to share their knowledge. I greatly admire so many of them!
Fortunately, I did not have all that much to offer other than myself to the psychopath, and he was never able to isolate me from my family. Cancer even stepped in to stop me from moving in with him! Who would have guessed that CANCER could actually SAVE your life? But save it did, as these people do not do sick partners well.
But Surprise! Surprise! The psychopath’s flying monkey minions followed me everywhere to further taunt and victimize me further into silence! As other bloggers have noted, and I’ve seen too, they do not seem to be people of high or even necessarily average intelligence or much courage, preferring to do their master’s dirty work often anonymously as gang-stalkers.
I’ve also had occasion to see psychopath abuse forums start out with the best of intentions and dissolve into cliques, with moderators and administrators waging war on victims needing help and support. It’s a sad thing when you have to withdraw your support of them when you see them moving in unwise directions.
In five years, I have reached the point, where I often find the whole subject of psychopathy boring, and my ex psychopath to be the most boring being on the planet. Everything about him now, I find extremely shallow and boring!
But no bitching or complaining here. Since then I’ve reconnected with an old love, and it bears no resemblance whatsoever to an abusive, toxic one. Our courtship is moving extremely slowly. It took us over 7 months to get around to a first date in over 45 years apart! No sex or passion yet. But anything could happen is my motto! He’s 64 and I’m 66, but I do get lots of randy ideas, so I know I’m very much among the living! LOL.
For now, we’re like two old friends getting to know each other again! We spend time together and catch up what’s been going on. Other than sometimes holding hands, we haven’t even kissed! Dull, I’m sure most would find! That’s alright with me. I like it! We have yet to discuss the future, or even if there will be one. We’re in no rush.. It’s like unpeeling an onion, layer by layer, and enjoying each discovery. This to me, is how a right and proper relationship should proceed on the way forward.
I’m excited. I don’t care about psycho boy anymore or even give him much thought. His flying monkey minions are welcome to him! So can his OW (my replacement), who can provide him with a nicer home and lifestyle than I can. That’s alright! It really, truly is!
Today, I am free to lead a happy, healthy life free of psychopathic individuals. Life is good! I wish all the best for you!